Let’s set the scene:
You’ve been dating for just under 2 years and are totally in love with her.
You’re thinking about proposing to her and have been working overtime, saving for an engagement ring for the past 4 months.
The past month or so, she’s been acting a bit distant and moody and you’ve been having silly little arguments.
You’re having dinner together one Friday night and go to pour her a glass of wine when she covers her glass, looks you in the eyes, and she says,
”I’ve got something to tell you, I’m pregnant.”
You’re surprised, and overjoyed!
You hug her and kiss her…Your dream girl is going to have your baby…but she doesn’t seem as excited as you.
She actually seems quite down and subdued.
You start doing more overtime and go for a promotion at work.
You have a child on the way and you are saving as much money as you can to give your child the best start in life.
She starts criticizing you more and more and picking fighting with you, over the silliest little things.
You put it down to her hormones, so you start doing everything you can to support her more and make her happy, but she just becomes more withdrawn and critical…you can’t seem to do anything right.
One Saturday morning, she rushes to the bathroom with morning sickness, and while she’s in there, her phone pings.
The screen lights up and you see a very flirty text,
“Hey sexy, it was so great to see you last night…”
…while you were working late to save money for your new family.
She comes out of the bathroom and sees her phone in your hand, and the guilt is written all over her face….and in that moment, the bottom falls out of your world.
You confront her about the text, she starts hurling insults at you,
“You’re never here for me, you don’t care, you’re always out…”
You argue, accusations are hurled at each other, she bursts into tears and she blurts out the words that hit you like a knife through your heart,
“It just happened”,
before storming into the bedroom and slamming the door.
Nothing more needs to be said…the sordid details don’t matter, she cheated on you, and now she’s pregnant.
Your world is spinning, the bubble has burst.
Your dream girl is nothing more than a cheat.
Your mind is racing.
How long has she been cheating.
Is the baby even yours?
You grab your shave bag and jacket and go and spend the night on your buddy’s sofa.
You tell him your sorry tale over a couple of beers, and he slowly shakes his head… “I don’t know how to tell you this bro, but my sister saw your girlfriend cuddling up to this guy in the restaurant she works at a couple of months back…”
This story may not seem quite real to you, the reader.
Some of you reading this right now are thinking: “What a crock of shit!”
But here are the facts:
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Sooner or later, he’s going to have to face the facts:
He could end up having a child with an unfaithful woman.
He could be tied to this low value woman physically, emotionally and financially, for the rest of his life, all for the sake of their child.
Maybe they can patch up their relationship, move past her infidelity and become loving parents to their child.
This is wishful thinking and highly unlikely.
As the saying goes:
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
She’s already shown by her actions, that when her needs are not being met, she’ll have them met outside of the relationship.
Loyalty has no meaning to her.
The best situation for everyone, is that he’s not the father and he can just walk away and learn how to choose better in the future.
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But the fact remains:
He could still be the father…he just doesn’t know.
What can he do?
He could demand that she terminate the pregnancy & have an abortion.
He has no legal right to do this.
The way the law stands, it’s her body, her choice.
So, if she decides to keep the baby and it turns out to be his, he’s financially liable for child support.
In other words, he has no choice and no legal rights and it is her decision and hers alone.
Also, research suggests that pregnancy termination may cause psychological and mental health problems in women.
Regardless of her bad behavior, you don’t want to contribute to any mental health issues she may develop.
She has to be responsible to any adverse effects, whether she chooses to terminate the pregnancy or not.
Get a paternity test.
9 months is a long time to wait to find out if you are the father or not…that’s a lot of stress and mixed emotions before you can know for sure if the child is yours or not.
Who knows, she may want to terminate the pregnancy if the child is not yours and keep it if the child is yours…can you find out before the child is born?
Fortunately, paternity can be tested as early as 8 weeks into the pregnancy
It’s a small consolation, but at least you can make an informed decision before the child is born.
What if she is not willing to have a prenatal paternity test?
CLICK HERE to order your paternity test for when the baby is born.
Can she stop him from getting a paternity test?
CLICK HERE to find out.
CLICK HERE to find out what an Acknowledgement of Paternity is and why it is so important
Like we have mentioned already, the best outcome for you, would be if the child is not yours and you can walk away, wiser for the life lesson.
Never EVER be shamed, coerced or threatened into becoming the legal father to a child who isn’t yours.
No amount of tears, guilt tripping or ‘I’m sorry’ is going to undo her bad actions.
Remember, if she’s cheated once, she’ll do it again.
Do yo want that sort of woman in your life?
Once you are legally and financially on the hook until the baby reaches adulthood, there is no reason for her to behave herself.
Do NOT be duped by her manipulation, so if the child is not yours, walk away.
What do you do if it turns out you ARE the father?
You have to step up, be the bigger person and make peace with the past.
Regardless of her low morals and bad behavior, you are going to be raising a child with her.
Whatever she says or does, you are going to have to rise above and learn to be the best father you can be to the child.
That means NEVER bad-mouthing her in front of your child…
This means showering your child in love & praise and building a meaningful relationship with them,
Being civil with the mother (and any partners she brings into the child’s life),
Setting and sticking to clear boundaries with the mother & the child,
Becoming the best version of yourself,
When you meet someone & introduce them to your child, to demonstrate what a healthy, loving, adult relationship looks like.
Your role is to raise a happy, healthy child with good morals.
A good starting point is:
I wish you well on the next chapter in the journey of life.