This is a semi-serious article for all you statistics geeks and number crunchers out there and a mindset shift for every guy struggling to meet and date quality women.
Am I saying that you should stop dating, never get married and start seeing prostitutes?
You’re a big boy, weigh up the pros and cons and make your own adult decisions.
Note: Of course, only do what is legal where you live…if it is illegal, don’t do it.
This is more of a perspective shift than ‘go sleep with a sex worker’.
It’s mental gymnastics and applied math aimed to empower men & open our collective eyes instead of just following the mainstream agenda.
There are so many gold nuggets in this article that are going to shift your perspective so that you will start to value yourself more and let go of the Disney & mainstream media bullshit that has been fed to you for far too many years.
You’re going to want to read this article again and again & share it with every clueless guy and every hapless simp you know. Guys, you need to know this:
It is your birthright to live an amazing life, so let’s get into it.
Take a look at this video from Better Bachelor:
I was out at the bar with some of the ‘old dogs’ of our group one night.
Over a few beers, rums and whiskys, we all got to talking and started sharing our various horror stories about dating crazy women, going through the divorce meat grinder and hooking up with single mothers. As the night wore on, the obvious question came up… I don’t know who asked it (probably me), but the question went something like this:
“Under what circumstances would you see a sex worker/escort/prostitute instead of seeking traditional relationships?”
Every single one of us who had already been through the divorce machine, agreed that we’d never get married again. As the name of this article suggests, let’s look at the numbers and see how they stack up.
In today’s society, 50% of first marriages end in divorce within 7 to 9 years. 65% of second marriages end in divorce in 4 to 5 years, and if you haven’t learnt your lesson after 2 divorces, it gets even worse after that!
65-80% of divorces are initiated by women, because she ‘wasn’t happy’, not because of anything real & tangible, like abuse, alcoholism or him cheating on her, just her ‘feelings.’
As an adult, isn’t she responsible for doing things that make her happy?
She’s not a 3 year old child needing constant attention and none of us are performing monkeys, jumping through hoops to make her or anyone else happy.
A healthy relationship is about two adults pulling together as a team, for the best interests of all members of the relationship and the family. At least, that’s how guys typically approach marriage. Having been through our own divorces, the group agreed:
In divorce court, if you have a penis, the question isn’t,
“Am I going to get fucked?”
The question is more like:
“How bad am I going to get fucked and how long is it going to last?”
The answer usually starts with: “At least half your shit + alimony + child support and only 4 days with your child a month, until the child is an adult and the alimony could be from 10 years to life.”
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Of course, you want to support your children financially, and take care of their needs, but why are you responsible for the lifestyle of an adult woman (your ex), who should be responsible for her own financial needs?
After all, women want equality, don’t they?
I told you we were cynical & jaded, but talk to your friends who have been through a divorce and they’ll tell you similar horror stories.
Most men end up financially ruined after a divorce, and far too many men In divorce, she typically gets the house (plus half his pension fund & benefits), while he ends up in a one bedroom, rat infested shit hole, paying rent on his apartment + the mortgage on a house he no longer lives in + child support + alimony.
Seems like a pretty shitty deal to me.
When it comes to marriage, the motto is “one & done.” Every guy is entitled to make the mistake of choosing the wrong woman to date, marry or start a family with. As the saying goes:
“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”
With the way the Family Law industry is set up these days, there is very little incentive or benefit for men to get married. Until they change the system and make it more balanced, why would you go to a rigged game where the losses are massive and the odds are stacked so high against you?
You wouldn’t go to a rigged poker game, so why would you get married more than once…but then again, some people are slow learners or just delusional.
So, what about dating?
Before we go any further and before you soy boys out there (or you angry feminists) get all butt hurt, remember: this is a cost/benefit analysis.
What is the purpose of dating?
For guys, the short answer is to get laid.
Here are the answers to the soy-boys and angry feminists questions as they furiously curse at their computer screens, calling me a misogynistic bastard.
But what about the flirty fun at the start of a new relationship?
Flirt with the hot barmaid at the bar or the cute waitress at your local steakhouse or burger joint…she’ll flirt with you for because she’s hoping you’ll give her a bigger tip.
Or go to your local titty bar and flash a $50 bill, the strippers will be all over you, in a flash, flirting and rubbing themselves up against you.
What about inspiring & interesting & intelligent conversations?
Most guys are actually a lot deeper than many women give them credit for, especially after a couple of beers, so get around the campfire or go fishing with a couple of buddies and a six pack of beers and you’re going to have conversations that could solve world hunger and bring about world peace.
Otherwise, start up a conversation with the attractive woman in the bookstore or the hot librarian…they are infinitely more intelligent than the average chick you meet in the bar or on Tinder and Bumble.
What about emotional support, friendship, loyalty & affection?
No contest- Get a dog.
There’s a reason they are man’s best friend.
They’re always happy to see you, they’re playful & affectionate & far more loyal than any man or woman, they’ll protect you, defend the home and they’ll never bitch at you or complain if you watch porn on your laptop or go to the titty bar.
Sure, you’ve gotta shovel their shit off the grass once in a while, but other than that, they’re the perfect companion.
Now that we’ve dealt with the bullshit reasons why men date, the truth of the matter is:
Men date to get laid.
So, let’s go through the numbers:
If a guy with average looks, who works out and isn’t obese, earns decent money and has a certain amount of game, he can usually get laid by the second or third date.
By the 3rd date, the average guy has spent $200-$500 or more on a woman he hardly knows and is hoping to take to bed… If that’s you, give yourself an uppercut and stop spending your hard earned cash on women you have just met.
Golden Rule of dating:
First date: Coffee, 15-30 minutes to see if she is worth you investing any more of your valuable time in getting to know her.
2nd/3rd date: Go to the beach or bush walking or bike riding, something active that YOU enjoy doing.
You want someone who is fit and active so you know she’s not going to gain a bunch of weight & you want to arrange inexpensive and fun dates so you get to know her properly and make sure she isn’t a gold digger.
After that: Invite her to grab a bottle of wine (or whatever you like to drink) & come over to your place and make dinner together.
You can do all the romantic stuff you pay stupid amounts of money for in restaurants, you can put on some sexy music and slow dance and you’re close to your bedroom so you can see how good she is in bed BEFORE you throw bucket loads of YOUR hard earned cash at her.
If she’s a starfish or a warm corpse in bed or has a whole bunch of issues around sex or you’re just not sexually compatible, you haven’t wasted your money or too much of your time.
I’ll say it again:
Stop throwing money at women you have only just met and hardly know.
Only spend your cash on your business, your children, your sports, your hobbies, your own health and fitness, your car & clothes and only spend it on high quality women who have shown through their actions over time that they deserve your attention: ie: your wives and long term girlfriends. Anyway, back to our average guy:
2 to 3 dates & $200-$500 = maybe sex and blue balls if you take her out for 3 to 5 dates and still don’t get laid.
Does that sound like a fair deal to you?
Here’s the facts guys:
If she’s really into you, you don’t need to spend money on her.
Expensive dates & gifts and flowers are for insecure guys that don’t know their own value.
Stop doing that stupid shit and spend your time, energy & money on becoming a better version of yourself & you won’t need to wine & dine her as a bribe for sex.
More and more women are going on dates with guys, not because they’re into them, but because it is less boring than being stuck at home alone and she can get a free meal.
But let’s say you have met this cute girl, and you have been steadily dating and you think us old guys are full of crap and you have found the unicorn and she seems just so special and perfect and wow…she loves me!
Let’s fast forward 6 months and she’s staying at your place 3 or 4 nights a week, and has even moved a bunch of her stuff into your apartment, she has her toothbrush on the side of the bathroom sink and a drawer in the vanity, her own space in the wardrobe and the neighbors even know her name.
Congratulations, the state probably now recognize you as married under common law, and if things turn sour and you split up, she is legally entitled to half your shit. (tip: de facto & common law marriage rules vary from state to state, from 3 months to 2 years or staying over a certain number of nights a week
GOLDEN RULE: She can come & stay over every now & then, but DO NOT let her move in!
Make sure she has her own apartment or place to call home.)
Dating the same woman for an extended period of time can be the same as being married…and if you break up, it could be the same as a divorce.
If you have children with this woman, there’s the risk of alimony, child support, paternity fraud and a world of pain for you.
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If you break up, you’re on the hook for child support and alimony.
It can get very expensive.
It can ruin your life.
Make the wrong choices with the wrong woman & once she has her hooks in you, the sex dries up, the weight goes on and the nagging starts.
Sound like fun to you?
Instead of dealing with that drama, consider this possibility:
Would you be willing to catch the bus or train to work each day, if you could hire a Lamborghini for an afternoon on the track every other weekend?
But why just stick with the Lambo?
There are so many different makes and models of vehicles out there, with different features and paint jobs and alloy rims and turbos and leather interiors and heads up displays…so many choices, so little time.
Why not try the Ferrari one weekend, then the next time take the McLaren out, then the Porsche?
Maybe you are going away for the weekend, so you take the Aston Martin up into the mountains, or the Jeep, and for your annual black tie work dinner, you take the Bentley.
By catching the bus or train each day, the money you save on petrol, parking, vehicle registration, insurance, servicing and tyres more than pays for your track days.
The best part is, you can try out lots of different amazing and beautiful sports cars and luxury vehicles and live like a prince. The same goes for high class escorts.
Save your money from expensive dates and nights out by cooking at home and instead of paying $12 a beer in the pub, invite the guys round to your place and buy a carton of beer and watch the game, or play poker or darts or have a meaningful conversation…that $12 beer in the pub usually costs around $4 from the carton and you’ll have loads more fun than an expensive date with the boring chick who looks 10 years older than her profile pics on Bumble.
Then when the urge takes you, party like a rockstar with stunningly beautiful women.
Depending on where you live, a high class escort is generally more affordable than 3 or 4 dinner dates, and a lot more fun.
You have a selection of beautiful women, in their prime, dressed in gorgeous lingerie, who are discreet and professional, and the sex is guaranteed and mind blowing!
She has regular health checks because she is legally required to for her to work in the sex industry, she always uses safe sex practices and there’s zero risk of her telling you that she’s pregnant and you’re the father.
And just like sports cars, she doesn’t mind if you choose a different vehicle next time you want to go out. I’m not saying do it or don’t do it.
I’m just giving you a different perspective.
Instead of having your fat, nagging, narcissistic wife in your ear, constantly telling you how useless you are, picture yourself with that gorgeous 26 year old in the stockings and lingerie.
With that image in your head, you are far less likely to put up with abusive behavior from annoying, low quality women.
All I’m saying is that many guys, after being divorce raped and dealing with crazy exes, view sex workers as an attractive alternative to dating.
The final (and our recommended) option is to become a 3% man
Become the best version of yourself.
Instead of chasing women, chase excellence instead.
It is your birthright to live an amazing life.
Instead of Netflix & chill with, go to the gym, start a side business, learn a new skill and increase your value as a man.
Get fit, eat well, play sport, sort out your finances, educate yourself, build a business, get a better job, have fun & interesting hobbies, focus on quality friendships.
If you’re a parent, build meaningful relationships with your children.
Focus on your goals, dreams and passions.
Live an amazing life, travel the world, be the prize and naturally attract high quality women into your life, and date them non exclusively.
It takes consistent effort and dedication, but the reward and quality of life is definitely worth it.